Dear Lacey… Don't do what I did

me and Laceeeeeeeey

Dear Lacey,

It’s been a while since I’ve written one of these posts, purely because I haven’t really done much with my life lately to offer you a lesson in it but next week, I go back to college and I’m already stressing. At least, I was.

Now, I know that I’ve said in a previous post that you can’t learn from my mistakes but for this, just make a little exception. I want you to try hard in school, revise as much as possible, don’t mess around in class and don’t skip. I don’t want to see tears on your exam results day because you didn’t get the grades you wanted, sometimes you don’t. Exams aren’t easy and it doesn’t matter how much you know, if you’re not good at exams then you can’t help that, your best is all you can give and you should always be happy with it, whether it’s enough for others or not.

Most importantly however, have fun. Take your time. Don’t rush to grow up because it will happen regardless but you can never grow down. Go to parties, make good friends, listen to happy music, write lots, read lots, draw, sing, dance, do as much as you can whilst you can. Go on trips, travel, experience. Sometimes you’re only going to get chances once and you need to take them. Go to prom, get a paper round so you can buy clothes and books etc. go to after school clubs, you only realise how important these things are when you realise that your CV is scarce because you didn’t do anything. Honestly, school isn’t all about learning, it’s also a big part of your social life. Build strong relationships with fun people, nice people that make you laugh. Otherwise, you’re going to end up like me (a total loser who doesn’t know how to friend.)

When it comes down to being serious, be serious, but don’t panic. No exam result is worth an unravelling of your mental health, trust me. They do not determine the rest of your life, you and your attitude does. Albeit, they will make it easier and you will need them to go to uni but to survive? They are minor details. Some of the most successful people are college drop outs, they didn’t let it stop them. I don’t mean drop out of college because you can get rich without education, I’m saying, if you decide that stressing over your education isn’t worth it and you stop, it isn’t the end of the world. There is always a second path to take so, if you’re about to sit some sort of exam, breathe. You’re not going to die if you get a D.

Lacey, try as hard as you can but enjoy yourself. You will be under a lot of pressure in secondary school, from puberty hitting you, to a pile up of coursework, boyfriends, arguments with friends and applying to colleges as well as trying to grow up when everyone expects you to act like an adult but they still treat you like a child. It all blows over eventually, I just don’t want you to crash and burn like me.

Good luck Moosh.


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  1. September 9, 2015 / 2:42 am

    Sophia, a lovely post. I like what you say about there always being a second road. There isn’t only one way to get somewhere. I really love and often refer to this quote by John Lennon: “Life is What Happens To You While You’re Busy Making Other Plans.” I’ve recently juxtaposed that with that classic quote from the rabbit in Alice in Wonderland: White Rabbit: [singing] I’m late / I’m late / For a very important date. / No time to say “Hello, Goodbye”. / I’m late, I’m late, I’m late. Somewhere in between the two is a balance.
    I think you’ve read my post about my daughter’s audition for the Sound of Music and if she’d got that role, she wouldn’t have been able to sing at some big concerts coming up with her school choir so there are pros and cons to these decisions as well. xx Rowena

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