I’m currently in the back of Harry’s car listening to Can’t Kick Up The Roots by Neck Deep on our way home from one of Fraser’s gigs in Camden and I figured it was kind of the perfect time to write a blog post seeing as it’s been a little while since I’ve posted a Dear Lacey. We went to Brixton after the gig to see the David Bowie memorial and there were loads of people there, celebrating his birthday and dancing and drinking, complete strangers were making friends all because this one guy impacted their lives so strongly. It was nice to be amongst that. You’re a bit young to know who he is right now but you’ll know him because he plays the Goblin King in Labyrinth. Anyway, that isn’t the point of this post, not directly.
David Bowie made an impact on people’s lives due to his art, his charisma and his ability to be himself, it touched people. He had 24 hours in a day, just like you do and managed to build an incredible reputation and I highly doubt he did this by turning down opportunities.
I turned down an opportunity once with a marketing company all because I was too scared to give a five minute presentation. I stopped singing because I grew self conscience and didn’t want to stand on stage and be judged by strangers. I’ve missed blogging events all because I was too worried to ask for a day off work or because I didn’t feel like I was a good enough blogger to attend and have people ask me questions that I didn’t know the answer to. I dropped out of college due to anxiety and panic over not wanting to fail my exams and be rejected from universities. What I’m saying is, I’ve gained nothing, except weight, from turning things down.
I learned a lot in 2016, I went to my first blog event, Vuelio Awards and it was an incredible and I had the time of my life, I traveled a little bit around southern England and experienced gigs and fan meet ups thanks to Fraser never turning down a gig and my new ability to swallow nerves and tag along. I’ve had so much fun in such a short amount of time all because I started saying yes and I’m looking forward to accepting so many challenges and opportunities in 2017. I think this is the year I grab life by the throat and make it work with rather than against me.
Here’s the message I want you to take away from this Dear Lacey; say yes and ignore your fears. Do not let anxiousness and nerves stunt your growth as a person, people are capable of so much as long as you use your time wisely, take a deep breath and jump straight in the deep end. Don’t grow up with a heavy sack full of what ifs, instead, replace the failures with “at least I tried.” and all the successes with “I’m glad I said yes.” That way, you’ll have less chance regretting something you didn’t do.
Love ya moosh.